The ta-da list! I need this in my life. I’m constantly berating myself for not being/doing more/better.
Rather than recognize what I’ve done, I’m looking ahead at what remains undone.
This article was just what I needed.
Also the rule of 3. Great suggestion. Much more manageable than the exhaustive lists I keep in my head, which are never fully completed and always leave me feeling guilty.
It lives above my action list in the daily notes of my second brain (Capacities). I hardly ever look back through it. The craziest, stupidest thing is that when I'm in a dip, I stop doing it because I then avoid everything that even smacks of "should" (demand avoidance in the extreme).
Unwise is too kind a word for it. Because looking back through previous ta-da lists would go a long way to get me out of a dip. Then again, in a dip, my inner critic gets loud and would diminish everything on that ta-da list. Dilemma.
Way out is surprisingly simple: act, do. Anything. Don't overthink it (that's one of the causes for a dip anyway).
While normally, I'd say do less, be more, when you're in a dip you want to be doing, not being. And you want to postpone thinking (about the big things) until you've clawed your way out (mostly anyway).
I love this Marian!! And what is life without a few dips? Having a plan to act / do anything is such a great way to get out of your head. I’m going to keep this in mind for the future!!
such sage advice. thank you for this. and please take a peek at our substack, the stories of the women we interview and photograph are reminders of beauty. https://thewhatliesbeneathproject.substack.com/
The ta-da list! I need this in my life. I’m constantly berating myself for not being/doing more/better.
Rather than recognize what I’ve done, I’m looking ahead at what remains undone.
This article was just what I needed.
Also the rule of 3. Great suggestion. Much more manageable than the exhaustive lists I keep in my head, which are never fully completed and always leave me feeling guilty.
Thank you for writing.
Thank you for taking the time to read it, Deborah!! I'm so glad it was just what you needed. It was just what I needed too!
I call it my ta-da list.
It lives above my action list in the daily notes of my second brain (Capacities). I hardly ever look back through it. The craziest, stupidest thing is that when I'm in a dip, I stop doing it because I then avoid everything that even smacks of "should" (demand avoidance in the extreme).
Unwise is too kind a word for it. Because looking back through previous ta-da lists would go a long way to get me out of a dip. Then again, in a dip, my inner critic gets loud and would diminish everything on that ta-da list. Dilemma.
Way out is surprisingly simple: act, do. Anything. Don't overthink it (that's one of the causes for a dip anyway).
While normally, I'd say do less, be more, when you're in a dip you want to be doing, not being. And you want to postpone thinking (about the big things) until you've clawed your way out (mostly anyway).
I love this Marian!! And what is life without a few dips? Having a plan to act / do anything is such a great way to get out of your head. I’m going to keep this in mind for the future!!
I loved this! Making an accomplishment list tonight!
Lmk how good you feel after!!! ❤️❤️❤️
such sage advice. thank you for this. and please take a peek at our substack, the stories of the women we interview and photograph are reminders of beauty. https://thewhatliesbeneathproject.substack.com/